In the time it took you to read this sentence.
That is the amount of time it takes to get your answer.
You've been there so many times. Someone brings you a question, someone brings you a quandary ... hell ... someone brings you a doughnut.
You immediately think you have the right answer for yourself and the situation. And your very FIRST response, that first knee-jerk response, is only coming from a conditioned place within yourself, built from past experiences.
Here. Let me give you an example.
Someone at lunch says she is enjoying her pizza. She asks, "Would you like a piece?" I quickly and without thinking answer "No, but thank you." As I walk away from that lunch, I may consider that situation and come to realize "I WOULD have liked to have had a taste of that pizza." Why did I say "no," and why did I say it so swiftly? For you non-codependent types out there, you may not be able to relate, but attempt to stretch here. In this situation, I may be conditioned by my mind to answer without really thinking things through ... for even two seconds.
Here are the thoughts that are faster than lightning, faster than two seconds, even one second:
- I don't deserve anything extra.
- I don't want to be a bother to someone.
- If I say "yes" to someone, I will be trapped into some obligation down the road.
- And more...
Your solution to dealing with this super-swift subconscious mind? Two seconds.
It's all you need. Try it out. Next time someone asks you a question or offers you something, take a breath or two. Take the two seconds it takes for your conscious mind to check your gut and connect with a deeper answer. You may find out that it disagrees with the knee-jerk reaction and responds in another way. "Sure, I'd love a bit of pizza."
In the long run, as you practice the art of "Two Seconds" you will become faster and faster at realizing what you truly want in each scenario - pizza or no pizza.
James Anthony Ellis is a writer and producer living in San Diego. And yes, he is available for outings for pizza most every day. He can be reached at www.LegacyProductions.org